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Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) Finding Your Way Date Smart! Chapter 1.10 When reading our posts, think about these questions: When is a heart unavailable? What can I do to stop my attraction to those whose heart is unavailable to me? Is my heart too available? [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) The Nature of Shame and Abuse Date Smart! Chapter 1.9 Why do men and women remain in abusive relationships, eventually break away from them, and immediately turn to another abusive one? People in these situations usually have several dynamics in common. [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) Sabotaging Yourself Date Smart! Chapter 1.8 Date Smart! examines the mechanisms, characteristics, pit falls and shortcomings that may have caused your conception of love to fail, if you even had one in the first place. A significant number of people whom [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) Defining Healthy Date Smart! Chapter 1.7 You must begin to understand and embrace what is normal and healthy for this to occur. During our seminars, we’re frequently asked: “What is normal?” “What is okay?” “How do I know that I’m not [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) Identifying A Broken Picker Date Smart! Chapter 1.6   All of these revolving-door relationships have one overwhelming common denominator – people in them make poor, unrealistic choices when it comes to picking a relationship. Poor picking is a pattern that’s hard to [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) “The Desert” Date Smart! Chapter 1.5 We refer to the third category of Revolving Door Relationships as “The Desert.” Like the terrain it’s named for, this relationship is dry, dead, and barren. Like a desert, there was little sign of life [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) “The Browser”  Date Smart! Chapter 1.4   We refer to the second category of Revolving Door Relationship as “The Browser.” This so-called “relationship” terminates in three weeks or less for a variety of reasons. It’s a bad date du jour (date [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information)  “The Burned Bridge” Date Smart! Chapter 1.3    We refer to the first category of Revolving Door Relationships as “The Burned Bridge.” This relationship is one where you return to someone who you had a bad relationship with. While it ended [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) Revolving Door Relationships Date Smart! Chapter 1.2 From our last post, Picking Up the Snake, the snake’s victim, like many of you, has what we refer to as a Broken Picker. This means she picked or chose to interact with a [...]

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information) Picking Up the Snake! Diagnosis . . .Snakebite Date Smart! Chapter 1.1 On a cold winter day, a woman wearing a warm coat was strolling along a path and heard a hissing noise. “Psssst. Miss? Miss?” She turned around and spotted [...]