Losing to Win

Tuesday, March 24, 2009 9:00
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Post written by Rick Doyle

Losing to Win


When does losing mean you’re winning? When it comes to weight loss!  Less is more or at least a victory.  The case in point, my awesome wife.  Okay, I confess just because I love her might make me a little biased but I have to admit after her pregnancy that was complicated by 4 months of strict bed rest and delivery of twins at age 37, she put on and took off, all on her own, a staggering amount of weight. 

This is a petite woman to begin with weighing about 110 lbs at 5’4” and sporting a size 0-2 jeans since she was about 12, with very little variation.  Then came a little IVF and 3 months in 12 days in the hospital, a cerclage and instructions that said don’t leave your bed unless it is to use a bathroom or you risk your pregnancy.  Add a side order of fear, stress, and me being gone working a hundred miles away every day 6 days a week and a little boredom eating could occur.  Food choices were relatively good, mostly fruit, veggies, some grains and an occasional craving but nothing like a gallon of ice cream in one sitting. The killer was sedation, not being able to go or do anything physical like she was used to. No walking, gardening, working around the farm, house, or just getting out to have fun.  It was kinda like winter with cabin fever times ten.  Then add raging pregnancy hormones and a slower metabolism and 70 plus pounds.  Here’s the twist, at 8 months due to a few other complications, she had to be induced! Bravo on staying put, making it thru months of “house arrest” and making it to full term with twins!  Sporting a slim trim 192 pounds and about the size of a double door refrigerator we had boy girl twins, healthy, 5 lbs 9 oz each which is a lot of baby for one little woman.  I can see if she lived on donuts and candy bars and pizza and ice cream how this happened, but she ate extremely well and I ate all the other stuff for her.  I am still 25 pounds over my marriage weight, bad author!

Okay, back to “What the *#&@ happened to my body?” After a few months and winter, no sleep at night and adjusting to twins, my wife declared she was going to try to get rid of the extra person she gained.  She went to Curves (a light weight exercise program) for a few months and initially lost about 20 lbs. fast working out 4 days a week for about 40 minutes.  However the boss is intense and not a slouch so ¼ to ½ speed working out did not cut it for her after a while and she couldn’t get past the lack of push with the instructors or the less than motivated individuals who were more there for socializing and dressing the part than actually working up a sweat and really getting into shape.  So, phase 2, walk.  Walk hard. Walk a lot, walk far!  She started out up and down the street 3 to 4 laps and eventually when we moved out to our farm it was 1,2, 3 laps of our driveway. Okay it’s a big driveway, ¾ mile long one way!  With hills!  Our place border’s family so there are 300 acres to walk with woods, fields and nice steep hills.  Phase 2 was good for another 20 lbs combined with better eating, chasing kids by now, smaller portions and less eating out. Losing the Coke products and late snacking plus drinking 6-8 glasses of water a day, huge difference in tone, wow!  Finally phase 3.  Running shoes. More shoes! Better sweat/wicking clothes, did I mention more shoes. Okay it’s a gravel drive, very hard on shoes!  She runs in 90 degree heat, 80% humidity and determination that included 5-6 miles a day and 3-4 days a week of hard running.  She tried an elliptical which was good for cardio a few hours a week but didn’t produce the kind of results running/walking did.  On a side note, ¾ of the year my wife is very heat tolerant but winter is very hard on her.  Lack of beach and 80 degrees I think.  So getting the right clothes and a little fair weather has over recent years allowed her some running time in the cold.  I think our next major purchase is a treadmill.

Today at 41 with 2 four year olds and a lazy overweight always hungry husband she is down to a comfortable size 4 and about 10 pounds off her goal weight.  Over 60 lbs. lost with some diet changes gradual escalation from very light aerobic group exercise, to walking to running in very harsh conditions I have to say she is smokin’ hot.  She looks 10 years younger than most of the Moms in our kids preschool and they are at least 10 years younger than she is in real years.  I frequently go out and stand at the top of our drive near the end of her run for that day and cheer her on for the last ¼ mile! YEAH!  (My real job is to watch the kids while she burns up the road!) Despite the fact that I was an addiction therapist and Hypnotherapist for 17 years, without any help from me and with a desire I have seen few muster she has worked to feel great and look great all to her credit and dedication.  The trick is very simple, you have to want it, stick to it, and change a few bad habits along the way and the results will come.  When she gets a little down for the last few pounds not coming off fast enough I ask her, “Do you realize you have lost nearly half an extra person”?  Also remember that as a body loses that much it must get used to the new weight and metabolism.  When you have 70 lbs or more to lose the first 20 will come off pretty fast and as your body changes it must adjust and pause along the way.  By the time it gets to the last 10 lbs the percentage to lose will come off very slowly but look at what is left.  Muscle weighs 3 times fat so it is possible, or even likely, that you can lose major inches and size and since all the fat is replaced with muscle you could actually gain some weight. It is not always about the scale, sometimes it is about the measuring tape!  A size 2-4 or even a 0-2 can in a fit body that actually weighs more than what it used to at the same size.  My wife is number one and I am so proud of her!

I gotta run.  I hear a donut and a coke screaming my name.  

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15 Responses to “Losing to Win”

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    July 19th, 2010 at 5:25 am

    I’ve been trying to lose weight for years. Actually I have over and over again. It gets old. 🙁 I’m going to try another diet plan, but I’m not sure which one.

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