The Browser, Date Smart! Chapter 1.4

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Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information)

“The Browser” 

Date Smart! Chapter 1.4


We refer to the second category of Revolving Door Relationship as “The Browser.” This so-called “relationship” terminates in three weeks or less for a variety of reasons. It’s a bad date du jour (date of the day!). They tend to pick or start relationships with people who are frequently as broken and unhealthy as they are.  There is an old saying that goes, “you will never attract anyone that is any healthier than you are”.  There is truth in advertising and poor relationship picking.  Some of the more common short term dates experienced by browsers are:

•  Date person number one: three weeks later, you decide they’re not your type. (Hello? It took you three weeks to realize they weren’t your type?)

•  Date person number two: three weeks later, you realize have nothing in common.

•  Date person number three: three weeks later, you scored, you’re bored and need a new toy.

•  Date person number four: three weeks later, the flame burns out. (It was too intense, too much, too fast, too soon.)

•  Date person number five: three weeks later, you discover they weren’t better than nothing.

•  Date person number six: three weeks later, they want to return to their ex. You were used as a rebound once again.

•  Date person number seven: three weeks later, you knew that they were someone else’s version of heaven. Your friends and family recognized that your picker was broken and attempted to find just the right person for you. Once again, they were wrong.

•  Date person number eight: three weeks later, you’ve discovered “The Suffocater.” They’ve smothered you, hounded you, demanded all your time, craved your attention, showered you with gifts, and shown you off. You not only want to get an unlisted phone number, but moving to a foreign country seems an attractive option.

•  Date person number nine: three weeks later, Cha-Ching. You’re broke. They’re gone. You’re alone with an empty wallet or purse.

•  Date person number ten: three weeks later, you find yourself wondering “Which one am I?” after discovering that only one of you believed in monogamy. “Pick a number please.”

•  Date person number eleven: three weeks later, you understand that physical attraction doesn’t equal sexual compatibility. “Spank Me!” aren’t the words you long to hear or say.

If you’re changing dates as frequently as you’re changing clothes, you need to start shopping at a better store with a clearer picture of what you intend to buy. The object here is to love what you buy (once) with no returns or refunds due to manufacturers defect. After reading these posts, buyer’s remorse will be a thing of the past.  We will help you discover if you are picking like a “Browser” why you’re picking short term dates that fail to become healthy long term relationships and appear to be doomed to fail so quickly. In the next post we will examine “The Desert”.  Keep in mind that each post is a piece of the book Date Smart! and we welcome your comments, experience, questions and hope that if we are describing someone you know or even yourself, you will come back often to hopefully get more answers as well as see what others have to say. 
Please come back each week as we will post the next piece of each chapter broken down into posts that you can comment on, ask questions or share your thoughts. We will eventually update and post the whole book Date Smart!


*Special thanks for co-writing this article goes to Dave Coleman AKA The Dating Doctor. Dave and I wrote Date Smart! back in Jan. 2000. The publication rights have now reverted over to us equally and, with Dave’s permission, I have edited the book and modernized some of the ideas we originally wrote. The book, Date Smart! is still available through some stores and you can contact Random House to request the book be reprinted. With enough demand they might just contact Dave and I to republish and possibly write another one. We are basically giving you the book to read in posts and encourage you to visit both Dave’s website and of course all parts of our website Neither the posts nor the book are in any way to be republished or sold or used without our express specific written permission and all posts are copyrighted and protected (ISBN-10: 0761521739,ISBN-13: 978-0761521730). Dave and I have written a number of articles together as well and so this serves as the byline. A huge thank you to Dave for sharing both our efforts and time to write what we hope are insightful, intriguing and informative articles that we share the creative collaboration and credit for working on over a number of years.

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2 Responses to “The Browser, Date Smart! Chapter 1.4”

  1. kevin_collins_usa says:

    April 16th, 2010 at 12:32 pm

    This is such a great resource that you are providing and you give it away for free. I love seeing websites that understand the value of providing a quality resource for free. It is the old what goes around comes around routine.

  2. Jason Pelt says:

    February 2nd, 2010 at 2:47 pm

    haaardcooorrre man ! i love it

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