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Where Fat Comes From And How To Lose It For Good!

Dear Ask Rickhead:  I saw your article on hypnosis and the one on defining addiction.  Can you go into more detail when it comes to weight and eating problems?  How did I ever get so fat? Where does fat come from and how do I get rid of it? Are we as a nation getting fat because of addiction to food or is it something else?  I go up and down with every diet I try and I’m not thrilled at all with my results of any of them.  As I’m getting older it gets progressively harder to take off anything and it seems that the weight I have managed to lose comes back on faster each time.  How can I get a handle on this?

                                                         -Chubby

Dear Chubby:  First off, thank you for your honesty and the admission and we’ll see what we can do to address your questions.  Read the rest of this entry »

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Code Red Characteristics of an Abusive Person, CRC’s

Date Smart! Chapter 3.3

(This chapter picks up the analysis from your results of the exercise you took in Date Smart! Chapter 3.2.  Click here to read that chapter and complete the Relationship Addiction Check List exercise.)

No matter how high your score, we’ll provide simple tools to work through your broken picker issues in order to create successful change. Even the worst case scenario can get better if you’re willing to try at least some of the solutions we will offer. Although your score is significant, your recognition that these 15 statements indicate the characteristics of your broken picker is more important. If you’re practicing many of the behaviors in them, it’s critical to recognize the Code Red Characteristics (CRC’s), which will help you avoid making, picking or maintaining bad or poor relationship choices in the future. Read the rest of this entry »

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When and How Is It Time To Call It Quits In A Relationship, The Divorce Option

It is another one of those clichés that is better off dead, “We’re staying together for the kid’s sake”.  No, you’re not!  When and how is it time to call it quits in a relationship? When is it time to exercise the divorce option? When you think that two angry people together is better than one on their own you are sadly mistaken. Do yourself and your kids a favor for their sake, get a divorce.  When I was in practice I must have heard it a thousand times and every time I had to ask, do you really think that two very angry, unhappy, distrustful, frustrated adults are making a fine example of a relationship? Do you not teach by example?  Do you wonder what kind of incredibly loving and happy person your children are going to look for or attract as a result of growing up year in and year out with your unhappy relationship as the role model that they can work out their unresolved issues from?  Maybe you “think” that a mother and a father are necessary to raise your kid or children but not two unhappy adults making the best of a bad relationship. One happy parent IS better than two unhappy parents.  One happy parent at least has a chance of finding love or a good role model but two unhappy parents together is just double agony for the relationship and what it demonstrates to the child or children. I am not advocating divorce, I am advocating against voluntary and involuntary misery. Read the rest of this entry »

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Fun T-shirts That Say Things For Me

All day every day I write real stuff. Today I write fun stuff! While sitting at the table looking thru a catalog I started reading fun tshirt slogans that after a while not only made a point but say things for me that I think and wish I could say to people all the time. As a parent and respectable (although debatable) member of my community I can’t go around wearing certain slogans as much as I would like to. I can however think them which brought me to a point where I wanted to share some of them with you. Maybe a grin, maybe a snicker, maybe a little hint of sarcasm or maybe just a fun t-shirt that will say something to you too. Here’s a few that stood out: Read the rest of this entry »

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Good Women and Nice Girls Love to go for Bad Boys and Losers

This is a question every nice single guy asks when he sees beautiful women, nice girls either chasing or staying with an abusive, arrogant loser.  The answers are so simple that it defies logic.  Not why they go for these men but rather why they keep searching them out or staying with them and setting themselves up for unending heartache and trauma.   Nice girls and good women go for love with bad boys and losers because of one reason simply put as a question; what do men and women want more than anything else?  What they cannot have!   If it wasn’t for this basic instinct we would not even get up in the morning.

I have asked hundreds of audiences that question over the years and the answers are always the same: power, money, love, sex, control, security, relationship, happiness, the list is infinite but it never hits the mark.  What we can’t have is what we most desire.  The key is the word desire.  That is what drives us to improve, to seek, to want, to motivate.  It is the driving force behind everything we do including dating and mating. Read the rest of this entry »

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It Is All About The Ammo

If you own a gun or are looking to buy a gun today it is almost a lost cause because America is out of Ammo.  A gun without ammo is like a swimming pool without water or a condom with a hole in it, useless.  I am an avid shooter and myself and my  family are all conceal and carry holders including my wife, mother in-law, father in-law and my brother in-law.  We all live on farms and we all hunt and contribute to varmint control. My wife even shot a ground hog out of a tree one day while on her 5 mile run.  But lately it’s not about shooting, it’s more about hunting; hunting for ammo, that is.  In fact ammunition is either so expensive, in some cases it has gone up 300% from just a few years ago, that even if you can find the caliber you need it’s so expensive a case can actually cost you more than the gun. Read the rest of this entry »

Post written by Rick Doyle and Dave Coleman (See Relationships page for author information)

IDENTIFYING A BROKEN PICKER

Date Smart! Chapter 3.2

Is it Love or Addiction, The Relationship Addiction Check List, Exercise

(Please read “A word of caution” at the bottom of this page before continuing)

As your new navigators, we have great news! These feelings, patterns and behaviors can be changed and improved. Once corrected, you’ll be able to radically modify any behavior that didn’t work for you before so you can attract the type of companionship you desire and deserve. If you leave personality characteristics alone they become permanent. The key is to increase your willingness to absorb new ideas and consistently practice them. It’s our belief that before you can change a negative behavior such as poor picking, you must identify the causes and conditions that created your problem. We’ve said that in your childhood many of you observed the unhealthy relationships that were a regular part of your world. These ultimately helped form what became your Broken Picker. Many of you have been traumatized because of rape, date rape, verbal, emotional, physical and psychological abuse, or continuous exposure to emotionally unavailable individuals. These experiences can all leave you with a Broken Picker. Read the rest of this entry »

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Are You The Woman Men Really Want?

This is the loaded question of all time.  It’s right up there with “Do I look fat in this?”  Are you the woman men really want is actually two key questions; first, what about you is going to attract the man you desire and second, who are you going to attract?  The latter can be as bad an outcome as you could ever want to avoid. Let me give you two examples of men that women really don’t want to attract.

I recently wrote 2 posts that by their nature should warn men and women that they are sometimes their own worst enemies and should at least think thru what it is they want and why?  The first article is about Gold Diggers.  Simply put, no matter how hot you are (or think you are), no matter what eye candy you can turn yourself into you might just be chumming the water and sending out all the wrong signals to the men who are just looking for a notch on the belt or a replaceable relationship. Read the rest of this entry »

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The Obama Plan

So far, the Obama plan is working like a charm.  He has spent more money than any other president in history in a fraction of the time and now he wants to top that with a health care plan that would be fatal for America.  He has a stimulus package that has cost Trillions and either no one wants the money or the strings attached to the money are so treacherous that bankruptcy has become a preferred choice by many companies.  Does King Obama want to kill America?  Will health care really matter when the country has no life to support?  Is Obama or the Obama plan so insane that only the desperate or the illegals would believe anything he says, no matter how stupid it sounds?  At what point do you look around and see that his blame game (when someone has a finger pointed at everyone else because it is all THEIR fault, they better look at that hand and see that it has 4 fingers pointing back at the pointer) is the only assignment of responsibility he seems to possess.  Let’s take a look at what Obama and his plan so far is doing to an average American family like mine. Read the rest of this entry »

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Father’s Day Rocks, Thank You Kids with Love from a Happy Dad

Just around the corner is Happy Fathers Day again.  Like a lot of dads out there I’m very, very lucky.  Becoming a dad was the surprise of a lifetime.  It was something I never expected and for me it came in spades or at least a pair. Twins!  A boy and a girl on the first and only shot which is so much more enjoyable now that we have advanced past the diaper stage.  There is almost a sense of elation that comes when your son or daughter says “Daddy”.  When my son sees the tractor he just about comes unhinged so I love taking him for a ride to his grandparents…it’s a country thing.  My daughter is a curious mixture of girlie girl with a dash of tom boy jumbled up in a gorgeous bundle of energy.  Yes, I have to admit that she’s got me wrapped around her finger like one of her blond curls but I’m still not getting her a pony!  In other posts I have talked about corrupting them with old rock ‘n’ roll while their mother is trying to give them a twang with exposure to country music.  Nice try!  I have to say, either I’m getting softer in my old age or being a father is starting to slightly degrade my level of crunch.  Either way I’m the one that owes a thank you for all the love I get every day, not just on Fathers Day. Read the rest of this entry »